March 18, 2017

New DVDs in the library dealing with difficult older people

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Last cab to Darwin

Rex is a loner, and when he's told he doesn't have long to live, he embarks on an epic drive through the Australian outback from Broken Hill to Darwin to die on his own terms; but his journey reveals to him that before you can end your life, you have to live it, and to live it, you've got to share it.

The lady in the van
At the complicated heart of The Lady in the Van lies a great mystery. How could anyone, no matter how saintly, allow a homeless woman to spend 15 years living in a battered and unsanitary old van parked in his suburban London driveway, surrounded by a smelly cordon of plastic bags?

Miss Shepherd  is not a woman to reward kindly impulses and conspicuous acts of charity. She is cantankerous, bossy, manipulative, dirty enough to be a health hazard, and more than a bit mad. Nonetheless, she's canny enough to guess Bennett is the Camden Town resident most likely to put up with her. Admittedly, it's occupation by increment. For a long time, she parks in the street in front of his house. But it's a risky existence and Bennett is sometimes to forced to step in and protect her from passing hooligans. Then the council orders she move on and, addicted by now to the verbal duels that make up their daily dealings, he lets her slide into the driveway.
in the film there is Bennett the writer, anchored to his desk, and Bennett the doer, who lives through the experiences his counterpart will write about. And they continually argue – about Bennett the doer's timidity, the smallness of his life and his guilt over his mother.

Now her dementia is forcing him to admit her to a nursing home and somehow her fate is linked in his mind to that of Miss Shepherd.

This film by Michael Haneke explores death, ageing and the fear of loss. Anne and George (Emmanuelle Riva and Jean-Louis Trintignant) are a couple in their 80s who are enjoying their retirement, but that changes when, after an operation following a stroke, Anne is left wheelchair-bound and paralysed. Although she expresses her wish to die, even going so far as to make an attempt at taking her own life, George tries to remind her of the beauty and worth of life itself and the love that they share for each other. The feature won the Golden Globe for Best Foreign Language Film and received BAFTAs for Best Film Not in the English Language and Best Leading Actress (Riva).

Driving Miss Daisy
In 1948, Mrs. Daisy, a 72-year-old wealthy, white, Jewish, widowed, retired school teacher, lives alone.
When Miss Daisy wrecks her car, her son, Boolie, hires Hoke Colburn, an African American chauffeur. Miss Daisy at first refuses to let anyone else drive her, but gradually gives in.
As Miss Daisy and Hoke spend time together, she gains appreciation for his many skills. After the house keeper   dies in 1962, rather than hire a new maid, Miss Daisy decides to care for her own house and have Hoke do the cooking and the driving.
The film explores racism against black people, which affects Hoke at that time. The film also touches on anti-semitism in the South. After her synagogue is bombed, Miss Daisy realizes that she is also a victim of prejudice (religious). But American society is undergoing radical changes, and Miss Daisy attends a dinner at which Dr. Martin Luther King gives a speech. …
Hoke arrives at the house one morning in 1971 to find Miss Daisy agitated and showing signs of dementia. Hoke calms her down. Boolie arranges for Miss Daisy to enter a retirement home. In 1973, Hoke, now 85, retires. Boolie and Hoke drive to the retirement home to visit Miss Daisy, now 97. As Hoke feeds her pumpkin pie, the image fades, with a car driving away in the distance.

*this is a great example of caring for parents that weren't great parents and also demonstrates great communication !
(see the book Taking care of parents who didn't take care of you : making peace with aging parents)
This is a story about hope. Hope for a different future, hope to improve the relationship between a father and son, hope to right old wrongs, hope that life can get better rather than harder.
Although it would have been simple to paint many of the characters as people worthy of pity and derision, instead you are shown that everyone is complex, simple, nice, nasty. 
Nebraska excels in that it shows us different perspectives of each family member’s experience of Woody’s possible or probable dementia and leaves us to draw our own conclusions. The humour is dark, but there are frequent moments of undeniable levity. It’s cheeky and unapologetic. And it feels real. Which makes it special.
Watch this if:
• You like stories about complicated, imperfect people and their relationships
• You’d like to see a different story about dementia – maybe.
Don’t watch this if:
• You don’t like swearing
• You prefer your stories a little less up close and personal.

Still mine
 This is an intimate portrait of Frank, a man in his late eighties who finds himself caring for his wife of 61 years. Whilst no formal diagnosis is ever made, it is apparent that Irene has dementia and requires more support to continue to live at home. Facing the realities of their changing circumstances, Frank decides to build a dwelling more suitable than their long-term family home and is thrust into the contemporary world of permits, plans, building codes and the consequences of not complying with these restrictions.
Whilst taking on more tasks within the home, to compensate for Irene’s changing abilities, Frank also contends with the concerns of his seven children and their preference to have Irene, or possibly both Frank and Irene, getting professional care or support. Still Mine is ultimately a story about a relationship between husband and wife and their staunch determination to remain together and care for one another. At times, this means other family members are excluded and disregarded. Yet no one doubts their devotion to one another. It is a story of empowerment and acceptance in very stressful circumstances. Whilst their situation bends them, it does not break them and Still Mine is, among other things, a story of triumph.

Iris - Based on the book Elegy for Iris by John Bayley, this movie tells the true story of English novelist Iris Murdoch's descent into Alzheimer's disease and the unconditional love of Bayley, her partner of 40 years. Jim Broadbent won an Academy Award and a Golden Globe for Best Supporting Actor for his portrayal of Bayley in his later years; Judi Dench and Kate Winslet received both Academy Award and Golden Globe nominations for Best Actress and Best Supporting Actress, respectively, for their portrayal of Murdoch in her older and younger years.

The Savages 
- Jon and Wendy Savage are two siblings who have spent their adult years trying to recover from their abusive father, Lenny. Suddenly, a call comes in that Lenny's girlfriend has died and he cannot care for himself. Lenny suffers from dementia and her family dumps Lenny on his children. Despite the fact Jon and Wendy have not spoken to Lenny for twenty years and he is even more loathsome than ever, the Savage siblings feel obliged to take care of him. Now together, brother and sister must come to terms with the new and painful responsibilities with their father. The siblings are forced to face the struggle with their own personal demons.

Age Old Friends - John Cooper is in a retirement home. There are strict rules for the residents, but he refuses to fall into passivity. He flirts constantly with Nurse Wilson and spends time with his best buddy Michael Aylott, who's slowly drifting into dementia. The movie portrays the fight for independence and dignity in old age.

Getting on. Series 1 and 2

"A pitch-black hospital comedy emerging from the more of the mundanity, bureaucracy and absurdity of health care with warmth, wit and laughter"
Ward B4 is a backwater of an NHS hospital – a depository for dying and discombobulated geriatric women.

The program shows in a humorous way the difficulties in putting the patient first, it looks at issues such as aged care, homelessness and clients who do not speak English.

Kim Wilde, played by Jo Brand, is a return-to-work nurse who must adapt to the difficulties the modern NHS throws at her, with C. diff, form-filling, and political correctness. 

She is the staff member most empathetic to the concerns of patients and their families, which often brings her into conflict her colleagues, who are more concerned with sticking to the rules. 

Dr Pippa Moore, played by Vicki Pepperdine, is the "tough but fair" Care of The Elderly Consultant. She is uptight, self-centered, and lacking in "people skills", often being discourteous to her colleagues, her medical students, and even the patients. She, however, remains oblivious to the offence she causes, believing that people are impressed by her professionalism.

About Schmidt [DVD]
Warren Schmidt is about the taste the not-so-sweet slice of life. When he retired, he and his wife, Helen, had big plans - but an unexpected twist changes everything. Now, all of Schmidt's attention is focused on his daughter's upcoming wedding to a loser waterbed salesman. From meeting the groom's hippie parents to sponsoring a Tanzanian foster child, Schmidt embarks on a search for answers, only to discover that life is full of trick questions.

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