Children of the aging self-absorbed : a guide to coping with difficult, narcissistic parents & grandparents
As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained.
Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent. In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time. Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through.
Stop Walking on Eggshells Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Finally, there is a sympathetic, wise, insightful, blame-free, plain and simply written discourse aimed at non-BPs with significant other BPs in their lives.
It explains what BDP is, symptoms of which can include abandonment and rejection issues, lack of self-identity, chronic emptiness, impulsivity, inappropriate anger, emotional instability, paranoia, splitting of people into all good and all bad and suicidal ideation.
It provides everyday solutions for coping with BP behavior, how to get help for the affected person, what additional traits occur which the DSM does not mention, deals effectively with universal myths and everyday realities, explains succinctly why BPs act the way they do and generally destigmatizes BPD.
It is a most comprehensive book written for both sides of the borderline fence with easy to read chapters ending in succinct summaries. Text boxes are outlined in an attempt to highlight the main message of the relevant passage and although this is somewhat distracting, it does serve a higher purpose. However, a word of warning for any BPs reading this book: Although it is written in a very compassionate voice, it may unearth repressed memories from childhood and evoke unconscious triggering behavior you may not even be aware of until the damage is done.
Taking care of parents who didn't take care of you : making peace with aging parents
Here is a compassionate and practical guide to facing the psychological and emotional issues that arise when caring for aging parents. Eleanor Cade offers sound as well as personal accounts from individuals who have made the choice to care for difficult parents. The result is a powerful guide to moving beyond feelings of anger, regret, and grief in order to build healthy new family dynamics based on decency and mercy.
Target audience - For individuals who are caring for aging, dysfunctional parents, as well as counselors and therapists who work with families
Features - an authoritative resource for baby boomers caring for aging parents
defines differences between "normal" and "dysfunctional" families personal stories validate the experiences and feelings of readers.
The selfish pig's guide to caring
Be ing a carer is long, lonely and hard, yet there is limited support and formal training. As a result, carers suffer frequent damage to physical and mental health. Oddly, though carers by definition are anything but selfish pigs, they are liable to feelings of guilt, probably brought on by fatigue and isolation. So Hugh Marriott has written this book for them - and also for the rest of us who don’t know what being a carer is all about. His aim is bring into the open everything he wishes he'd been told when he first became a carer. And he does. The book airs such topics as sex, thoughts of murder, and dealing with the responses of friends and officials who fail to understand.
I AM NOT SICK, I Don't Need Help! is not just a reference for mental health practitioners or law enforcement professionals. It is a must-read guide for family members whose loved ones are battling mental illness. Read and learn as have hundreds of thousands of others…to LEAP-Listen, Empathize, Agree, and Partner-and help your patients and loved ones accept the treatment they need.