When I say no, I feel guilty : how to cope -- using the skills of systematic assertive therapy
This book plays an important role in the set of cognitive, emotive, and behavioral skills taught by psychologists such as Albert Ellis and David Burns. While books such as "A New Guide to Rational Living" (Ellis) and "The Feeling Good Handbook" (Burns) contain tools that address a far wider range of problems, Smith's methods work far more rapidly, easily, and consistently for the challenges that this book addresses.
Taking care of parents who didn't take care of you : making peace with aging parents
Caregivers' stories: Eleanor's story: Returning to help aging parents: surprise: denial: early signs of change: the call we can't refuse .. caring for children versus caring for parents : Estate issues: estate planning: family heirlooms: letting go
Family issues: what kind of family did I grow up in?: family myths, family scripts: family roles..
Finding a new role: expectations: choices: priorities; being taken for granted: setting boundaries: dealing with our siblings: creating freedom :: who is saying what: getting siblings to help: caregiving from a distance: helping the primary caregiver : Taking care of the caregivers: burnout: self-pity: setting boundaries: finding a therapist: support groups; friends: physical responses to stress: exercise: letting off steam: nutrition: meditation: reclaiming caregivers' lives
*The Parents; Acceptance And Healing Making peace: communicating : finding freedom: gratitude: letting ourselves off the hook: grieving: death and dying :Breaking the cycle
Too nice for your own good : how to stop making 9 self-sabotaging mistakes
Being nice often means we take on too much, tell little lies, strive endlessly for perfection, and fall prey to other self-defeating behaviours.. Outlines the nine unconscious mistakes nice people make daily, and he shows how to correct them and avoid unnecessary stress with life-affirming actions. Learn how to:
-- Say "no" and save yourself from burnout
-- Tell others what you want, and actually receive it
-- Express anger in healing ways that maintain valued relationships
-- Respond effectively when irrationally criticized or attacked
-- Liberate your true self…
Does this sound like someone you know?
•Always needs to be right
•Tells you who you are and what you think
•Implies that you're wrong or inadequate when you don't agree
•Is threatened by people different from him- or herself
•Feels attacked when questioned
•Doesn't seem to really hear or see you
If any of the traits above sound familiar, help is on the way!..Tackles the "controlling personality," and reveals why and how these people try to run other people's lives..
An ideal book to give immediately to bereaved people and those in touch with them. This book covers: What is normal grief; anniversaries and special dates; physical reactions; coping with the immediate needs of the bereaved; the funeral; preparatory grief; children and grief; gender differences in grief; bereavement and its possible consequences; sexuality and grief; the support team; self-help and community education.